Strong Can No Longer Be Your Default:
If you want to stop being the “strong friend”, you have to start being honest. Being honest isn’t easy though; fears of judgement or feelings of shame can be huge obstacles hindering us from seeking out help when needed. Here are some tips for overcoming these worries:
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Start small – open up in smaller groups first before gradually building your confidence in larger settings when ready.
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Choose your confidants carefully – find someone who has proven themselves trustworthy and dependable so you know that what you disclose won’t leave the room.
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Feel the fear and do it anyway – chances are the worst thing that could happen is nothing really terrible at all (e.g., feeling embarrassed), but even if it does seem scary at first, simply pushing through gives us power to face things head-on even when they appear overwhelming!
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Celebrate successes – once you’ve gained enough courage to talk about what’s weighing heavily on your heart, make sure you take time out afterwards for self-care activities such as walking outside or enjoying a hot beverage; having regular rewards will remind yourself of how courageous you are which makes facing future challenges much easier too!
Start Asking for Help!
It can be difficult to break away from the ‘strong friend’ stereotype, especially if you’ve been playing that role for a long time. However, starting to ask for help is an important step in taking away some of the pressure and stress associated with being so self-reliant. Asking for assistance not only provides much needed respite and support but also allows us to practice vulnerability and build courage – two skill sets which are invaluable in making progress both mentally and emotionally while still maintaining our sense of self. Moreover, asking for help further allows us to form meaningful connections with others as it gives us an opportunity to open up more readily without fear of judgement or rejection; it is through these moments of intimacy when trust is established between individuals which creates a stronger bond that fosters growth, healing and eventual understanding. Striving towards independence is often seen as a point of pride however seeking support does not necessarily mean one needs to compromise their autonomy – in fact, becoming comfortable with being open about our weaknesses can often end up bestowing upon us newfound resilience instead.
There’s no shame in being honest about our feelings or asking for support when needed – after all, refusing help won’t make any issues go away instantly and oftentimes just leads towards further suffering down the line due to nobody noticing that something is wrong until incredibly late into play such as unfortunately happening with many mental health related cases…so please don’t be afraid of seeking help today even if only through talking openly with those around us – your mental health journey is infinitely more fulfilling when shared with others raising each other up along every step forward!